RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION

Of course it’s ideal when both you and your partner commit to doing the work together. The most valuable part of doing this course as a couple is that you’ll be experiencing your shared commitment to the relationship. The added benefit is that you’ll be able to be in dialogue with one another about what you’re discovering and learning, which will create a feedback loop and stabilize more positive change.

However, as the great Mahatma Gandhi said, “As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.” Your commitment to transform yourself, and to learn the skills in this course on your own, will absolutely begin to shift your relationship dynamic––whether or not your partner is on board. The more responsibility you take for your part in the relationship dynamic, the more agency you have to create change.

Absolutely! The same rule as stated in the previous question applies here.

As the great Mahatma Gandhi said, “As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.” Your commitment to transforming yourself, and learning the skills in this course on your own, will deepen your capacity to attract and remain in a healthy, conscious partnership.

Yes! This course is designed for you to go at your own pace, circle back, and re-process whenever you need it. You will have lifetime access to the course upon purchase, so there is no pressure to finish within a certain timeframe.  

The equation for effective couples therapy is INSIGHT + BEHAVIOR CHANGE. As a relationship educator, the biggest complaint I hear is often, “We gained a lot of awareness, but nothing changed.” That’s because if you want your relationship to feel different, you have to do something different. You have to BEHAVE differently. This course offers opportunities to develop your insight, but it also offers clear directives on how to BEHAVE differently.

”Somatic” means relating to the body. Our body is our nearest environment and it is the home for our experience of the world. Paying attention to the sensations in your body is an absolute necessary aspect of having a healthy relationship. Our body provides moment-to-moment information about: what we like, what we don’t like, what our boundaries are, what brings us pleasure, what is unresolved trauma from the past — AND, most importantly our body lets us know when we are dysregulated, and dysregulation is when conflict occurs, and it is the driving factor in conflict escalation. Learning how to notice when you're dysregulated and to come back into regulation is key to having safe communication with your partner.

The content in this course is a curation of some of the most popular relationship research and methodology. This course integrates research and best practices from the field of relational studies, attachment theory, and neuroscience. Many of the behavioral practices in this course are borrowed from Imago Relationship Therapy and The Gottman Institute.

Yes! While this course *can* be completed in 12 weeks, we encourage couples take their time processing it, and revisit the lessons time and time again. Upon purchase, this course is yours (for as long as the internet works ;). 

Absolutely. This course is designed for you to go at your own pace and style. There are accountability resources (like biweekly group calls) available if you have questions, or run into any issues. While we encourage you to take full advantage of all the resources in this course, they are ultimately, totally optional.